My friend has 2 sisters, and he has just received message from his doctor that he has a tumour in the colon. The doctors are strongly recommending to do a further test, and to remove the tumour quickly. They all have a history in the family; their mother passed away 1 year ago, of cancer in the colon. My friend has no health insurance, and has for the moment some cash flow problems. He is asking his sisters to help him out with 2,000 dollars for a short time to get the test done and to remove the tumour. Maybe needless to say, but my friend has an agonising pain, psychologically, both eager to get the tumour removed and to find out that he does not have cancer. Anyway, both the 2 sisters is not interested in helping him with the 2,000 dollars. They are saying they have other expenses as the holiday coming up, loan payment on the cars etc. Both of the 2 sisters have the money, it is no doubt about that. Any justification for this behaviour? What do you guys think?
Is this behaviour acceptable at all, under any circumstances?
That is absurdly horrible, that their own family members, wouldn't help them out, especially after what has happened in their family. Tell you're friend to sit their sisters down, and tell them that, he has a tumor, in his colon. And that he needs help, more than ever, from his two sister. Then tell him to say, remember what happened before, in our family? Do you want that to be me? If this doesn't help him, then you could set up something, a fund raiser. If you could set up a fund raiser and you're goal would be just a little bit over $2,000. Have it be a fun, fund raiser, but casual. Have good, but non-expensive food. Then have an auction, or just a regular fund raiser. If that is not an option, then you could always have a yard sale, and even though it won't make you $2,000 in one day, it is a start. And it is obvious you care about you're friend, and it seems that you are willing to do almost anything to help. Which makes you, a great friend.
And to answer the question, that behavior is not acceptable at all under any circumstance! It is absolutely ridiculous that they won't help!
I'll pray for you're friend. Good luck! God speed.
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That's positively deplorable behavior, especially given the family history. Unbelievable -- holidays %26amp; car payment?! Puleez!
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Absolutely not. That's completely selfish, if they have the money. Guess I just love my family too much.
Is this behaviour acceptable at all, under any circumstances?
for me, family is everything, so in my mind the sisters arer both bad people, no excuses, end of discussion
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Not every family is like the Brady Bunch or the Waltons. Sure, it would be nice if the sisters did help out, but they are really not obligated legally to do anything just because he is a blood relative.
Unless one knows more about the familial relationship, whether or not it's been a dysfunctional one all along or maybe has a history of abuse of some sort, no one is in a position to judge who is %26quot;bad%26quot; and who is not in this situation.
An example? I had a half-sister who would act all nice and loving in public, but in private was verbally and physically abusive to me most of my life. She would steal money from my mother's purse on a regular basis. We do not get along to this very day. She was and is an extremely selfish and violent individual. She wouldn't help me, either, when my mother died and left me saddled with the debt from the funeral and hospital...so I would be very reluctant to help her out now...and if that makes me %26quot;bad%26quot; then so be it. Some people earn what happens to them. So maybe this guy isn't the %26quot;angel%26quot; you seem to think he is!
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I dont know them but I think that is a bunch of crock! This is a serious situation. This is life and death. I wouldn't think twice about giving that money to my sibling. I cant believe that! Your friend is in my prayers!
Best of luck
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I think that's ridiculous. I think the girls are his sisters and family sticks together. Your friend should quickly reach out to other communities for help. Does he got to church where they could possibly raise money for his health needs? Does he have other relatives that could help. If his mother passed away from colon cancer then this is urgent. Get it out there and raise some money.
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Have they had trouble with him paying them back before? Or any other reasons to not trust him?
Personally I would not deny the money to my siblings, but I dont know what thier history is.
For the time being he should file for the state's health care. If he is having trouble with money he will probally qualify. I hope he pulls through okay!
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Maybe you just think they have the money but they don't, either way that is not the issue. The REAL issue is that your friend needs to get this done now. I think he should just go ahead with it and wait for the bill, when the bills come he can apply for a medical grant if he doesn't have the money. If he is in real pain and needs to get this done there should be no excuses. It is sad that his sisters won't try to help him, but it is none of your business really. If you are as concerned as you say then why don't you try to hold a benefit for him? I am sure that will bring enough money to get him the sugery!
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No
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Well we have to accept it , some families do help no matter what but I like my own independence and take what may come in strife's. Have strength and share wealth when comfortable to do so.
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Totally unacceptable! That's no way to treat family and the only way I see that the sisters would not help out in a life or death illness situation is that there must be a huge rift between the brother and 2 sisters. Any past feuds between brother and 2 sisters??
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They are extremely selfish , an inhuman approach.
You try talking to these ladies and if they are married may be talking to their husbands,might help. Try stiring their souls.
Meanwhile you need to explore with other friends.. Wish you and your friend GOOD LUCK.
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Reminds me of the story of the, %26quot;Grasshoper and the Ants%26quot;,
Oh the world ows me a living.............
Why can't he come up with his own $2,000 or insurance, sounds like he has done nothing all his life but spongue off other people, state funds and welfare lines and now he expects others too care.... well.. to bad...
It is not the sisters responsibilites to take care of him.. you didn't post age and this would be a different story if they were middle age or older.. but I get the feeling this dude is about 25 and has made no contributions too life at all.... and he or you want justification for THE SISTERS BEHAVIOR?
Tell him too sell one of his cars, or house or stereo or what ever... oh.. how about rewind the clock and start over....
if this is not the case, I appologize sincerely in my short approach to his medical and financial conditions, but too many times people go through life that they believe this Universe turns around them... and you know what...Surprise.. %26quot;It doesn't!%26quot;
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I just read some of the answers above mine.. what a bunch of sniveling blankety, blankety, oh family is everything... loosers..., we are only getting one side of the story people and look at the way this is written.. so one sided.... only one or two of you could see through that.....
there is more too this story then we have been given and the author is looking for self justification of his/her feelings...
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if he can get some help from SSI , %26amp; not it not acceptable behavior, what kind of a sisters they are even a stranger will help someone in that circumstance but his own sister refuse to help unbelievable
Is this behaviour acceptable at all, under any circumstances?
Wondering where you live. Despite all you hear, you CAN get medical treatment without having money or insurance in the US. Find out which hospital in his area is best for this. Many offer grants to needy patients and all of them in my experience offer discounted rates for non-insured with very lenient pay schedules. The sooner he gets a diagnosis and treatment, the better. Email if you need help with the research.
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